Do you ever feel like many people you meet remind you of someone you have already met? Like life is a giant game of Groundhog day?
I do. Often when I meet new people there is something about them that reminds me of someone else. The way they talk, their hair, what they are interested it, their mannerisms, the way the dress, how they make eye contact, how I interact with them, what style of relationship I have with them- lots of different things. A lot of the time I can’t even put my finger on how they remind me of someone or who they remind me of. I just get a vague sense of them as familiar. I mean, no two people are exactly the same- everyone has their own story and history. But it seems some people have a very similar…. I don’t know what to call it…… presence? I have thought a lot about this over the years and have wondered if it is something that everyone experiences or just some people (or just weird me?). I have wondered why I think about this so much.
Is it because I tend to always put things in categories? Everyone has different ways their process and remember information. For me, I put things in big, broad categories and then work down to smaller and smaller categories. Not necessarily consciously- sometimes it is pure intuition, but I have noticed that categories play a huge part in how I think. So do I do the same thing with people? Is this some attempt on my part to try and figure out how to relate to people by focusing on what is familiar to me?
Or is it bigger and more complicated then that? Is there a reason that I feel like I keep meeting the ‘same’ people over and over again? I’m agnostic, so the jury is still out on the idea that ‘god’ is trying to teach me something by sending the ‘same’ people my way. But I do believe in the power of “Mother Nature” and maybe there is something within nature at work there in that as humans we are drawn to the familiar. For example, when you start a new job or a new class or join a new club- there are people within that group that you are drawn to. Most people start by befriending one or two within a group in order to get themselves ‘in’ so to speak. What dictates who we are drawn to, if not this sense of familiarity?
I find this even more interesting when it happens online- with people who I have never met in person. There are a number of you out the the blogosphere I have connected with and all I have to go on is your writing style, your interests and maybe a teeny, tiny picture. But some of you still occupy a space in my understanding as familiar. Odd, eh?
I tried to figure out if I could even describe a couple of these categories. One is of a friend whom is more experienced then I that I look up to. An other is a bubbly life of the party acquaintance, whom I worked with briefly, that has brown hair. Those are just two examples, I can’t come up with anymore right now.
Anyway, not sure what my point is. Just wondering if this is just me….
Feel free to discuss how odd I am amongst yourselves now.